tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5083638296820168853.post196584666722764066..comments2023-05-12T05:59:32.386-05:00Comments on faith from the field: Daddies Don't Let Your Daughters Grow Up To Be OggledSheri Ellwoodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12521018942479639251noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5083638296820168853.post-11082584844337922142011-10-28T21:54:14.011-05:002011-10-28T21:54:14.011-05:00Lynn, pornography is an issue I was thinking of to...Lynn, pornography is an issue I was thinking of too. I think folks still think it is just sort of amusing. It is not. It is part of the whole industry of sex and has devastating effects on marriages. <br />Wanda, thanks for sharing that story. Women can do amazing things when we have great family to support us and teach us. It helps a bit to be on a farm too. A few more opportunities to break out of some of those gender roles.Sheri Ellwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12521018942479639251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5083638296820168853.post-69756323313998324232011-10-28T10:44:34.168-05:002011-10-28T10:44:34.168-05:00Our daughter definitely did not allow herself to b...Our daughter definitely did not allow herself to be oggled. She was what was commonly termed a "tomboy". She was surrounded with boys, and she was very comfortable with that: she just thought of boys as other people. We lived on a farm, and she had only a brother to play with; there were only boys in her Sunday School class and in her class at school. In fact, she would be one of the first to be chosen when they chose up teams at school. She definitely was one of the guys. <br /><br />But when she was young, her father took her brother (3 years younger) with him when he worked in the shop. He and his father did all of the mechanical work on their machinery. It really bothered me that he did not take our daughter as well, and I insisted that he include her. She could learn about using tools and how machines worked, as well as her brother.<br /><br />When she left home at age 18 and lived 250 miles away in Kansas City, she was able to call home and talk to her father about any mechanical problems with her car. She would then understand the problem before she took it to a mechanical shop to be looked at. It definitely turned into an economic factor for her. <br /><br />While she was still in Kansas City, one evening when she and a group of girls from work were at a popular restaurant in the Plaza, she excused herself to use the restroom. When she came out of the stall, there stood a young man. She slammed the door to the stall and demanded, "What are you doing in here?" He replied, "I wanted to meet you." She said, "This is not the way!", and brushed right past him. I think her attitude about her equality to males really played a part for her then and contributed highly to her safety. I certainly don't want to diminish God's role in this. This could have turned out very differently. But she would have put up a good fight, and the Lord would have been right there with her, I have no doubt.<br /><br />Teaching our girls to respect themselves and teaching them that they don't have to allow boys or men to overstep their personal boundaries is highly important. Our daughter's life shows first hand some very tangible reasons why we need to teach our daughters to respect themselves. This is part of a parent's love. It is incumbent on both fathers and mothers, and sometimes it starts with mothers teaching fathers. <br /><br />Our daughter at age 50+ now relates to both little girls and little boys at elementary school. She deems it one of her missions in life. And she still requires that little boys respect little girls there. And if she comes into a nose to nose confrontation with some little boy, he knows there is true power behind her words and the finger in his face. If he's smart or even perceptive, he will realize that little girls sooner or later become big gitls.Wanda Nelsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5083638296820168853.post-17278158203278872872011-10-27T13:18:33.046-05:002011-10-27T13:18:33.046-05:00So my thoughts immediately jump to pornography. H...So my thoughts immediately jump to pornography. How much would our world change if every daughter's father did his part to see that women weren't objectified? Thanks for the link. Good food for thought!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com